You know the old saying 'if at first you don't succeed, try again.' Persistence and patience are the key they said.When I tell you patience is a virtue, that is an understatement.
I’m not even just talking about the blog. Look guys, I know I joke around a lot and keep it funny but I am just in such a thankful mood I just want to share a part of my life’s journey. In September 2013 I was fired from what I thought was my dream job for no other reason than the people I worked with hated me and my ambition.So much so they made a false claim against me to HR and I was terminated. I was devastated, but optimistic. I was a service manager and was very good(damn good) at my job so I should have no problem finding a job, or so I thought. Interview after interview at various financial institution it never failed. I always got the dreaded question of why I am no longer employed .Lie after lie I told to justify my ‘leaving’ my position because who would believe my crazy story of jealousy after all? The 'Follow-up' became life.I called and emailed weekly only to get that dreaded template email that I ‘was not selected for the position’. That optimism slowly turned into a depression. Months and interviews went by with no luck.It was like I was banned from ever working in banking again. Why me? I did my job, the customers loved me and then I realized everyone doesn’t like a go-getter. Ambition is seen as competition. I don’t think it helped that was I cute, keep in mind this was before I knew about contouring and highlighting. The area I live in is very small and rural all you need is straight teeth and greasy lips to be attractive.
After 8 months of rejection, resume tweaking, going back to school, crying, wondering, plotting revenge, and every thought imaginable finally God saw fit to give me a break in the clouds. I finally got a call back and it wasn’t from a bank. It is almost 3 years today I had that interview. After every interview I always said to myself “I think this is the one”.It’s funny how I wasn’t too sure of this one, but it was sure of me. Even though I complain mildy of having this job it is nothing like where I came from and I am thankful for that. I am also thankful that being here gave me the chance to dive into the blogging world.
I never imagined that companies would reach out to me and want to see me in their pieces and now even pay me for doing so. The blog started out as a creative outlet to wear my bomb clothes that I cant wear anywhere else because I live in the middle of nowhere. However people started taking notice and it make me care about blogging. I would see traffic to the blog and then there would be times where I would have great postings and it was like no one cared. And again that optimism began turning into small bouts of lowliness. However in those moments, once again right before I hit the bottom , I received a break. Companies and boutiques I had followed and some I hadn’t began reaching out to collaborate. Their audiences loved what I had to offer, but it still wasn’t enough it seemed. It wasn’t until I began to pour my heart literally into my posts is when I noticed a real difference.
It’s not that others laughed at my pain (hopefully not) but because relating to clothes is shallow in compared to life experiences. Let me tell you something, I got a lot of those! Just like my job as service manager that I was so graciously released from my mission is to help and develop others. Before I was developing co-workers into prepping for the next level of their career, and now I am developing how others see themselves .Self-image is important not only when it comes to your well-being but also how others perceive you. People can smell weakness and confidence from a mile away and the scent or stench you emit can make a world of difference.
So this disco inferno look is one of my all times faves!I love monochromatic looks and a royal blue one tops my list. Something about this color is just so bold, powerful, vibrant, and just shocking! This top is all but sold out of one and you can contact the boutique here for availiablity and size . I did find it in white and denim on www.incantareboutique.com . As for my sequin socks, I am more than saddened that the etsy shop that sold them is no longer in business.I was driving myself crazy trying to locate them for you for but I did find some similar below.The only thing I will say about the ones I have is that they bleed a bit from the black fabric used.It took a good hot minute to realize why my white toe polish was turning black lol.
You know Gucci keeps me inspired, but I am on a Ramen noodle budget so the creativity and bargain shopping kick into high gear.
I know it seems like I am going in circles and you may be asking what does this have to do with the look I am wearing , but this should all come together right about now. You see, I have been sitting on this outfit for a few weeks. I had plans on shooting this look another way , on two separate occasions and it did not pan out well. The day I shot this look well, I was a day for the books. I lost my shoes(two pair and recovered one), my husband, my patience, my mind, and temporarily my will to blog. Just when all the optimism ran dry once again, I was blessed with a reason to ‘keep going’. These MOFO PICS!! I meeeannnn!!! When I tell you all these shots were perfect , well you can see for yourself! Following my Saturday from the land of Monday’s I have had the best week on the blog. Not only a huge increase in traffic but a consistent increase! Thank you all for showing love. So you know I always share ‘what’s next in my world?’ on Fridays, well a dope magazine just reached out to me for a feature and not a fake one like my Teen Vogue mock interview *insert roaring laughter. So yea that’s happening soon and yea now that it’s warm I have finally began to shave my legs.That’s a big deal for me!
So of all the stuff I sporadically spouted today my purpose was to let you know that :
a-my life is a mess.do not envy me.
b-low points in my messy life are an understatement
c-haters gone hate.dont let them stop you from doing your thang.
d-just when you think it can’t get any worse, sometimes it does.
e-your setback is only a set up for a come up, okaaay?!! (c’mon somebody!)
f-trouble don’t last always, bishh
g-if at first you don’t succeed try that ish again
h-you may think you love something, but you could be wrong.life has a funny way of revealing your purpose.
Oh did I mention I worked for Wells Fargo and that they recently got in major MAJOR trouble for opening fraudulent accounts for customers to get bonuses? Yes it was going on when I worked there and management didn’t care.While reading some of those articles I also saw a lot of comments from former employees who experienced the same thing I did in the shark tank of retail finance.Oh yea I forgot to mention I had reported to hr about some unethical behavior from management and even feared they would retaliate.Spoiler alter: they did. Well karma is not always swift , but you can pretty much count on it.
The demon spawn in a suit who orchestrated my termination left the company (pretty sure he knew he was on his way out) and another employee who was in on it (and I HIRED) was shortly after terminated .It was a surprise (not too much though) to me to pull up at Burger King one day to see them mopping floors and shoveling fries. This person had neeerrrve to try to speak to me.Being the humble person I am I politely waved and made small talk.I’m lying. I laid before him the cursing of a lifetime.DON’T FIX YA UGLY MOUTH TO SPEAK TO ME AFTER YOU CROSS ME! I AM NOT THEEEE ONE BRUH! *claps hand #hetriedit
Thanks so much for reading! I hope you all stay beautiful encouraged and confident on your daily journeys.I'm gonna close out today's post with a quote from the great MC, Kevin G:
That's Just Me!
I love fashion, the outdoors, and things on sale.